I want to dedicate this blog to the purest and strongest connection of all. Because during our childhood and after, it’s She who has the power to shape the world the child lives in and, often despite her own misfortunes and silent tears, also dictates how that world is to be interpreted.
Someone who, like nature itself, wants to stay in the background and whispers: “You just play with your friends, I’m in the next room if you need me”, then checks in once in a while to see if everyone’s still alright. During those observations, She’ll also try to figure out if you’re hungry, sick, sad or in pain and if anything can be done to make you feel better. Like nature, unconditionally caretaking and endlessly forgiving.
Someone who sometimes raises her voice, only to say: “We can not decide for you what you should do with this day, this week, your life! The times have changed and we’ve had such a different life, but I do not doubt you or the decisions you make! I just want to see you happy!”
I now believe that if every She on earth (daddies and other important caretakers not excluded) would be able to consistently give children protection, trust, love and unconsciously teach them how to love, not because of fear or to survive, but simply because they do, this blog would soon lose its meaning and all psychotherapists too, would cease to exist.
Your children are not your children. They are the sons and daughters of life’s longing for itself. – Kahlil Gibran